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Self Worth Means to me…

Self worth was the topic of this past weekends event.

This is the same dress I wore to the event but in a different color. They have so many colors online but not at the actual store. Or else I would have bought more lol.

 

This past weekend I went to the Boss Women who Brunch “Empower Your Worth Late Night Cocktail Event” with a couple of my besties. Self Worth Event Boss Women who BrunchThe event details popped up in my explore feed on Instagram  and when I saw what it was about, I knew I had to go. If you’ve been following me for a while and have seen any of my “Vision Board” videos , then you know I love to try and take a few self development/improvement and/or Business development type courses throughout the year. I try to do a minimum of 3 a year and last year with opening up the salon, it was hard to make it happen.

It was a weekend of inspiration that I needed to push me into Q4. I’ve dealt with a lot of personal stuff here recently and have been really busy that it’s been hard to do things I love doing, consistently. The things that energize me and make me have a more positive mindset and outlook on life. The event being one of those things. At the event we all spoke on a microphone and told the audience what self worth means to us. We also played an awesome balloon activity where we wrote down our insecurities on a balloon. After doing so, we all went outside as a group (70+ women) and released our balloons together. It was so empowering. I left this event feeling inspired.

With the different seasons that life throws at you, it’s important that you do things to get that inner voice in check! The mind is so powerful and if you’re all up in your negative feelings, you’ll attract more of it. Law of attraction y’all haha.

It’s important for me to have a positive mindset and sense of self esteem, so that I can be the best version of myself for me and for others. So how does this play into my self worth? It allows me to have faith in myself when I take care of me first. I once saw somewhere that if you want to be selfless, be selfish. Here are a few things that do this for me.

Self Worth Meaning EventCommunity – I’m an extrovert for sure. Quality time with people that bring me emotional value really rejuvenates my soul.

Being physically active(mainly in nature)– running outdoors is my favorite exercise that always makes me finish with a positive mindset. Being out in nature and running really grounds me.

Reading – first of all, let me just say how weird it is to see me type that reading is an example. Reading over the last several years has become something that I enjoy doing when it’s about self improvement or learning more about the topics that I’m interested in. I find that reading books like this really helps me build my self worth. When I was younger I hated reading and writing (I still don’t really love writing hence the grammar haha) but over the last several years, I’ve actually realized how important reading is. It’s like exercise to the mind.

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What is Self Worth?

Self worth is an internal state of being that comes from self-understanding, self-love, and self-acceptance.

Self worth to me means being able to be ok with all of your flaws and know that YOU ARE ENOUGH! This is something I always have to work on. With Social media and living in a competitive culture, it’s so easy to define your self worth with accomplishments, money, and comparison. It’s important that you have such high sense of self worth that when these things are all stripped away from you, you’ll be fine because you are enough!

Self worth to me means being able to speak your truth with confidence. This has been one of my biggest struggles but the more I practice it, the more I become better. I tend to hold things in and I often have to remind myself to speak my mind when it’s needed. Sometimes a little reminder telling yourself ” YOU ARE ENOUGH and you’re speaking your truth” right before confronting a situation can go a long way. When you don’t, you end up hurting yourself more. In the past I struggled so much with resentment issues because I never wanted to communicate my true feelings. Which in the end , hurt me even more.

Self worth to me means comparing yourself to your potential and not others. If you are constantly comparing yourself to others, you’ll most likely have bad self esteem. With bad self esteem, it’s hard to have a high sense of self worth. There will always be someone prettier, there will always be someone richer, there will always be someone doing better than you. If you compare yourself all the time to others, you’ll easily become unhappy. When I used to compete as an IFBB Bikini Pro, I never realized how much I was measuring my self worth based on how I was doing in my placings and also allowing competing to be what defined me. I stopped having fun with it so I knew I had to put a stop to it. After I quit competing, I had a hard time regaining my sense of self worth. I didn’t know how much this would effect me after. I felt like a failure, I felt like I wouldn’t be successful again and that being an IFBB Bikini Pro was my peak in life. I was so unhappy during that time and wasn’t doing much for myself.

Girl Boss DefinitionGrowing into the woman I am now after years of self improvement since, I realize what I was missing then. I wasn’t doing any of the things that bring me joy. The things that help me maintain my positive mindset. Which was so strange. Around that time, I was in a new city. I didn’t have friends in the beginning so I definitely didn’t have community. I was having health issues from competing so I had to take a break from being physically active. I wasn’t really reading anything that was fueling my mindset. I have always had a gift of remaining very positive during the hardest times of my life though. I realized I wasn’t being myself. I realized I was in a huge funk. I realized that if I didn’t make changes, I would continue to remain being unhappy. My faith in the unknown has always helped me to be pretty strong. With that being said, I was able to turn my situation around. I started putting myself out there. I got back into the things that made me happy.

I had to remind myself like all things in the past that everything happens for a reason. That I may not understand why at that moment but in the future I would know why that had to happen.

Whenever I go through accomplishments and/or breakthroughs in life, I understand why my past challenges had to happen. I become extra grateful for those past moments because there is always a lesson to be learned to make me wiser. I hope if you’re reading this and if you’re facing some challenges, I can give you hope to have faith in yourself, be positive and take care of you. Nobody can make you happy except you. I feel that it’s a responsibility I have on myself to help others regain that positivity and self love and share what works for me. Because I’ve been able to get through things with these actions, I want to share it with you all!

Understand yourself- ask yourself who you are when everything physical has been taken away from you. Accept yourself- accept every part of you. The flaws and all! Love yourself- talk to yourself like you would to a best friend. Now go Define yourself!!! 

P.S. Did you read my last blog (4 things I Learned Since Expanding with Employees)

xoxo

Shelsea

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  • Taren
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    Love this ❤️❤️❤️

    • shelseamontes@gmail.com
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      Thanks Taren!! Love everything you represent as well xoxo!

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